Saturday, March 08, 2008

saying goodbye

How do you say goodbye to a person you haven't seen in more years than you can remember? How do you make it so you don't feel the guilt of not going to visit?

My Grandma Sam is going through some major life changes. She is a woman who does not take to change very well. She lives to be in control of her own life. She is about to have to give up that control because her body is tapping out, saying it's done. Dad and Keith take her to a nursing home on Monday. I never thought I'd see the day. She's going rather willingly at this point. Who knows what Monday will hold.


Unknown said...

I feel that way about my grandparents as well, since we've never lived close to each other. This situation reminds me of the movie Away From Her that I just watched on DVD and I have to admit that it scares me to think of not being able to control myself later in life, and then it scares me more to think that I won't have any kids to help me either.

FemaleCSGradStudent said...

This is a tough problem, and I have no advice. But I'm thinking of you in this tough time.

bronxbt said...

my grandparents all passed when i was reasonably young, so i too, have little advice to share...

only be strong, take our lurve and support to lean on, and keep your own shoulder available for your father, who may need a little place to rest his head too in time.



PlazaJen said...

I'm like Becky - I'll be alone (no kids) to walk me in to a nursing home. Maybe just sending a card, with a small note to say you're thinking of her? I do believe it's never too late to say the things we want to say.
I'm sorry for your Grandma, and for your family. I hope she fares as well as she can.

Jack K. said...

Thanks for the comments. I have posted something to bring folks up to date.

I'll probably have more to say in future postings. I did get a few more stories.

Love ya,